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  Questions and answers on mp3
Posted by: delboy1691 - 03-10-2018, 01:05 PM - Forum: Gamblers Anonymous Q & A Section - No Replies

Can anyone help I have a member who finds it difficult reading I thought there was an audio version of the orange book( bible) I'm sure I had a copy once but I can't find it I've tried the internet any ideas please

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  Hi
Posted by: lj1992 - 26-09-2018, 10:28 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (13)

Hi everyone, I'm LJ and I am a gambling addict.  

I have known this for quite a while now, and have tried to stop numerous times over the past couple of years.  I started gambling around 4 years ago, and since then I have started a great new job and moved to a different area of the country.  What remains is the gambling problem.  It's been bad ever since it started.  I used to live with my parents and get paid weekly on a friday.  Every friday i'd go out and gamble all my wages.  It just went on and on, arcades, pub fruit machines, online.  Fast forward 4 years, I'm in loads of debt and have literally nothing to show for the fact i've got a well paying job.  My performance at work is suffering due to the depression gambling is causing me, but every time I go back to it.  I stay out going round the pubs drinking until late, and have to be up for work at 6 the next day.  Until that inevitable point in every month when I go skint and have to survive off nothing until my next payday.  I'm so ashamed.

I've tried a few times now to properly stop, I think the longest i've lasted is 10 days.  It always starts again in the same way.  I convince myself I can play pub fruits to keep the addiction at bay as I don't really lose on them.  From there, i'll sustain for a few days then go on a massive blowout and lose x figures in an arcade.  Or do my last x online, manage a win and repeat the cycle.  Until next payday.   I hate it so much, I need to change.

I've never tried GA, and i've decided that now I need to take that next step.  I have located a meeting happening this sunday at 7PM, so I will be going to that.  I just hope from the bottom of my heart that GA can give me that boost and extra help I need to kick this once and for all.  It's destroying every part of my life, physical wellbeing, mental health, friendships, relationships, everything suffers because of gambling.  I'm prepared to give this everything I've got, but i'm scared because i've tried before and it always ends the same way.  I need to quit.

If anyone wants to talk, or can give me any advice going into my first meeting, then please let me know.  

Peace,
LJ

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  Trying my best
Posted by: gazza1276 - 24-09-2018, 05:51 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (3)

Hi everyone, I'm new here but I'm hoping to become a regular. I have been gambling most of my life, gradually getting worse and worse. I have lost loved ones, friends,family and all respect from everyone. I have been with my current partner for 9 years but I am on my last chance with her. I'm a taxi driver so access to cash is very easy. I have now self excluded from every gambling place for miles around and I have given my partner full access and control of all finances to my partner. I have told everyone I know the truth and told them why they shouldn't give me money. These steps have been in place for 2 weeks and things are going well but I still find myself wanting to hide cash from her and go gambling...I have resisted so far but it is such a strong urge. The money I have saved and the respect I have got back for been honest has made me realise what a fool I have been. I hope I can continue the way the last 2 weeks have gone.


Thanks for listening

Gaz

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  New and wanting help
Posted by: Danny258 - 24-09-2018, 04:44 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (12)

hi all,

I just wanted to say hi, I’m a new member and after battling with myself for a length of time I don’t even know, telling myself that ‘I’m not an addict’ and ‘I can stop whenever I want’, I’ve finally admitted to myself that I need help. 
Unfortunately, to get to this point, I’ve driven myself into a deep, dark hole where I found myself lying to my partner about my money and hiding things from her in order to hide the fact i was gambling. I feel down, depressed, and more importantly, like I’ve let down my partner.
I’m biting the bullet and going to my first GA meeting tonight, in an hour and a half actually. I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t nervous or scared, because in all honesty, apart from coming clean to my partner, this is the hardest thing I feel like I’ve ever had to do. In some way I feel like I don’t want to go, but that’s purely because of the shame and the guilt, but on the other hand, i do want to go because I want to take the first steps in fighting this addiction. I feel weak and powerless and, to be honest with you, stupid for letting myself get into this situation. I’ve finally admitted to myself that I need help, and more to the point, that i want to take the first steps in fighting it. 

Has anybody got any tips or advice for my first GA meeting tonight?

Thanks in advance, Danny

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Thumbs Down My daily diary
Posted by: Adam9999 - 19-09-2018, 07:01 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (79)

Day 35 and this is my first GA thread.

I've previously posted on the Gam Care website (part of my daily therapy) as did not appreciate GA had the ability to undertake a daily thread.

I've attended 9 GA meetings to date and changed my date 3 times, however 35days ago (6 meetings ago) something finally clicked and I accepted that I'm powerless over gambling and this has me beat. On that very day I came completely clean to my partner of 22years and have been living one day at a time ever since, all barriers in place, and working with a daily programme. I've embraced "Just for today" and presently working on many character defects.

Unfortunately I've suffered with Mental Illness for over 16years now. Severe depression and anxiety issues plus I struggle with addiction (was gambling but I seem to have now reverted to food) to tackle many emotional issues. At this time I'm obtaining support and advice from a Counsellor as well as awaiting CBT.

Today has been a good day. School run, gym, discussed the revision to the plans of our new kitchen, and spent a hour reading GA threads, as well as 30mins in the chatroom.

My daily threads will continue from here on in using the GA forum, and hope this will continue to assist in my own recovery as well as give others support.

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  Time to stop, time to start my new life
Posted by: JustDoIt - 19-09-2018, 06:21 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (3)

Hi,

I am a gambling addict. I am a pathological liar. I am almost rock bottom.

I've always had this addictive personality and unhealthy relationship with gambling. Watching my dad on the bandits, my brother and on the bandits then playing myself. I've never been able to stop. I pray today that this is the beginning journey towards stopping forever.

I hate myself, I have dark thoughts and I feel an immense guilt after every time I lose. I've lied to friends, family and partners to cover up my addiction. I hate myself, not because I've lost money, lost time or lost friendships. But because I am a liar, I lie too much and this deceit is so far away from my personality that I've not been true to myself.

I'm the type of guy who'd give his worse enemy his last fiver because he'd no money for the bus home, but I'd go home and lie to my (now ex) partner about reasons to have no money.

My selfish gambling has broken hearts because of my lying and hurt good people that don't deserve it. I feel that I can't cope with doing that to people anymore otherwise I'll lose myself forever.

I'm nearly at rock bottom, in debt, moved back in to my mother's house at 27 years old. With nobody to blame but myself. Today, I am going to do something about it. Today I've accepted that I need support. Today I've taken the first step towards salvation from myself.

I'm terrified about attending my first meeting. But I need to. From reading on here it is easy to spot that support from others is essential in learning to becoming a better self, that talking and listening to others is the best way to learn this essential life lesson. That helping others is far more rewarding than any size win on the roulette.

How did you take that first step into your first meeting? I've identified one on Sunday. Is it OK to bring a friend for moral support? Somebody to ensure that I don't use my social awkwardness and desire for privacy get the better of me.

Yesterday I gambled, today I didn't gamble, tomorrow I won't gamble.

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  Newcomer in need of support
Posted by: Andrew - 10-09-2018, 04:03 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (4)

Hi all, I have just joined GA and wondered if anyone can help. I am 42 years old and have gambled my whole adult life. I have always justified it as being an escape from the pressures of work and life, but i realized in the last couple of months just how much it has affected me and i stopped gambling.  Since I stopped i wake up in the night with severe anxiety attacks about how i could have let this go on for so long, how much money i have lost, the impact on my family, and if I can ever be normal again and ok without gambling? I am full of guilt and shame. Any help, guidance or reassurance about the future would be much appreciated. I worry that it is too late for me given how long i have gambled for. Thanks so much.

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  Advise please - will he ever change?
Posted by: atmywitsend - 09-09-2018, 01:38 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (4)

Hi, 

My husband is a gambling addict, using online slot games, betting shop slot games and pub gambling machines. When we first met it started off very small bets for "fun" but 5 years later it has soon progressed to gambling every day. He admits he has a problem but refuses to go to meetings or see any professionals etc. He is using my bank accounts for his gambling habits, it's all in my name (his accounts are maxed out) and he has said if anyone every questions why there are so many online gambling transactions in my account I need to say its me?? Seriously? 

Everyday he demands I send money to him, he is known to get very aggressive, and even violent and I have a small child so I give into his demands for an easy life which I know myself is wrong but I feel stuck between a rock and a hardplace. 

He says he wants to quit but that means that I have to take on his recovery as well as looking after 2 children, working and also battling my own issues with greif and stress at the moment. He says in order for him to quit I have to quit smoking (which I did for 6 months and he still didn't quit, I went back to it through stress), he has demanded again the only way our situation will improve is if I quit smoking completely this week but he "wiill"reduce" his gambling to £xx a day until he can "cope" with nothing. He suffers anxiety which he blames me for, but again will not seek help. I feel he is taking me for a ride and doing anything to hold onto his addiction while making me believe he wants to change. 

We are 2 months behind on rent due to his gambling, I am waiting for the eviction notice, we have over £xx of debt from not being able to pay bills and I have 2 kids to think of. 

My question is - does he sound serious about making a change? Has anyone else managed to quit but reducing their habits rather than quitting cold turkey? All the online accounts are in my name but he refuses me to cancel them. I want to leave but I feel guilty for moving out with his child etc. My family have offered me help out of this situation but have said if I accept I cannot go back to him, he's my child's father and my husband I don't know what to do. 

I have lost over 2 stone through stress of it all and feel ill on a daily basis, and I can't carry on like this. 

Please help what do I do to make him change?

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  Official Guidance
Posted by: BU13 - 09-09-2018, 12:26 PM - Forum: Gamblers Anonymous Q & A Section - Replies (1)

As I’m chairing my second meeting on Tuesday is there any official GA guidance as to what you HAVE to cover?

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  Hi my names Ty and im a C,Gambler :(
Posted by: Tyger79 - 09-09-2018, 12:52 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

my last bet was friday 07/09/18

i been gambling since i was 19 and i am now 39.

i am not in debt so i dont owe any money luckilly Confused

i know i need to attend Ga meetings so i will as soon as i can

I just blew £xx in the bookies on friday Sad

I know i need to stop because it is ruining my life Sad

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