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  new to forum.......
Posted by: BigDave - 26-09-2014, 12:45 PM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

There is a weekly online meeting in the chat room every Thursday evening at 9pm (UK time), this can be accessed worldwide.

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  A new rock bottom
Posted by: BigDave - 19-09-2014, 10:03 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

It is great that you have decided to go back to meetings. Keep an open mind Andy and work the program. The meetings alone will not cut it for you, you need to work that program.

Get yourself a sponsor, you won't regret it.

Big Dave (Uxbridge/Eastcote)

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  All or nothing gambling binge
Posted by: BigDave - 18-09-2014, 08:32 AM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (1)

You can't walk away cos you're a compulsive gambler!

I could go on and try and suggest to you what to do but to be frank I am sick of repeating myself. It is almost like you have ignored or dismissed every bit of advice. Until you take heed of the suggestions that have been made to you in the multiple past threads things WILL get worse.

GA meetings are not a miracle cure they are not going to MAKE you stop gambling. If you are not prepared to put the effort into your recovery then you are right Andy, they won't work, just like before.

Surrender Andy, you are never going to win. You certainly aren't going to win back what you've lost because you can't stop. Face it and move on!

Big Dave (Uxbridge/Eastcote)

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  Losers diary.
Posted by: Rovit - 01-09-2014, 09:58 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (1)

Andy
Your ,pain , anger , rage is apparent. What is not is step 1, that you are totally admitting defeat, and our ready to start your RECOVERY . The totally admiting defeat is there and if you go to GA meeting you might start to recover. Abstaining is not enough , the likely outcome is a return to gambling.
One question , why if you have read the replies to your posts, wouldn't you give yourself a chance and go and see what GA can offer you?

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  I'M WILLING TO HELP GENUINE PEOPLE IN RECOVERY.
Posted by: BigDave - 28-08-2014, 01:57 PM - Forum: Share Section - Replies (1)

Hello.

Well done on 10 years. It's quite an achievement. What aspect of the GA program would you say has had the most influencing effect on your recovery?

Big Dave (Uxbridge/Eastcote)

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  Gambled again.
Posted by: Rovit - 27-08-2014, 06:14 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

Your not alone , I have replied on a different thread.
I have been where you are, i took the pills but they didn't take me. I am now a recovering gambler. I have a mountain of debt , relationship issues, BUT I'm the happiest I've been in years , I'm working the program and life is good. Don't give up take the first step!

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  recovery...abstinence....knowing the difference...
Posted by: Rovit - 16-08-2014, 09:06 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

Hi
Thanks for your thought provoking post. The difference between abstinence and recovery is very simple in definition but sometimes so hard to find in practice . For the first time I have found the difference that works for me after years of ignorance , i want to enjoy life and be a better person by making decisions that work towards this goal. When I write this down or tell close friends it's seems so simple, as supported by their facial expressions.
Which gets me to the question you ask, a simple answer but maybe harder to understand , you are the person you have become through the effort you have put into your recovery.
Unity and serenity , i love that phrase.
Ivor

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  Why bother
Posted by: Rovit - 09-08-2014, 10:40 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

Hi
Why bother?
Why not allow yourself to lose your, pride , dignity, hope, wife, family, friends, happiness,
Why not have so little self respect you are willing to end your life
Why not believe that no one can help you that your at the lowest place you have ever been , only to continue to go to lower places
Why not be the shell of a person lacking spiritual belief, whose mundane existence is now the only reality you know
Why not .... Because you don't have to. I have let gambling take me to all of the above , but no more. With the continued support of GA members and my inner belief that I can be a better person , who can recover and help others to do the same.
It took me far to long to realise what I can achieve , 10 years attending GA before the penny dropped, but now life is good and getting better , I don't believe in god but I now have a strong belief in me, that I can make small differences in my life on a regular basis that have a ripple effect on a pond that will effect the lives of others in a small but positive way. That is why we are here.
Strength, serenity, unity to all those that can access the wisdom of the rooms and clarity to those who have yet to find there way to a better life in recovery.
All the best
Ivor

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  Inspiration
Posted by: Rovit - 05-06-2014, 06:57 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

Hi
I am 6 weeks into recovery . I have just read the orange book from start to finish yet again and I have this urge to share my experiences for no other reason than I can. I wouldn't have ever dreamed of doing this.
I am a life longer gambler , for the past 35 years. I have suffered as many of us have, factually I have lost thousands, a wife, a home and could have lost my life. Emotionally I have lost more. I have lost years moping in a nightmare world of the compulsive gambler. I have attended GA on and off for over 10 years but never managed more than 5 or 6 months. For some reason this time I seem to have found something different. I won't dwell on why it hasn't worked for me in the past but why I think it's working for me now. In the past I listened and understood what the program was about, but I didn't embrace it. A key for me this time as an atheist is that my higher power is humanity, that as a person we all have special qualities an a inate desire to be part of a community. I have found joy in not being obsessed by me and how I think and feel, I know we should put our recovery first but my recovery is being fuelled by not putting myself at the centre of everything . I hope this is making sense.
I am beginning to see how the changes I am conscientiously making to myself are having positive effects on my children , mother, friends. I know I have a long way to go with this and have to return to bridges where the cinders are long gone. I dealt with people by totally cutting them off, If I was hard done to or perceived to be I would just refuse to interact with those people. I am talking my ex spouse and family members. I don't feel able to do this yet. At meetings I express the fact I can't believe things are going so well and how different I feel to my previous experiences, I am not complacent and still very early in this period of not gambling, but I feel truly inspired to become the better person I know I am and can be, I still think of gambling every day, but I am getting stronger on not acting upon those thoughts.
I felt the need to post to share my experience and put in writing for my future reference the almost euphoric feelings I am currently having.
Thanks

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  Can't stop...
Posted by: BigDave - 27-04-2014, 09:50 AM - Forum: Share Section - No Replies

Hello

This is a new website and the Q & A section has not been added yet. Although it certainly opens the eyes it is not meant as a guide to see how far gone a compulsive gambler you are. If you are desperate enough to stop gambling that you have sought out this site and written your story then there is a good chance that GA can help.

It is great that you were able to phone a family member when you had that urge to gamble, it's very encouraging. This is one thing that GA members are urged to do (especially to other members) but often disregard. And also telling others about your problem gives you more of a chance because you no longer have the need to lie.

If you can get to a meeting Liza then I suggest that be your priority, don't put it far down your list. Many people do the same because they are scared, nervous, anxious, etc... and would rather put it off. The truth is there is absolutely nothing to worry about, all that you will find in any GA meeting is a warm welcome and far more support than you ever imagined.

Just like every other compulsive gambler that comes to this forum looking for help, the help is in the meetings, it really is. It was there for me in February 2006 and still is today. I have not gone a week without a meeting since June 2006 and it is no coincidence that I have not gambled. It can be the same for you too!

Big Dave (Eastcote/Uxbridge)

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