18-02-2010, 10:05 PM
hi Maria, I just read your story and can definitely identify with not being able to understand how you missed something so big. I also thought my husband was just useless with money until I found out that he'd been gambling and lying to me since we met. I can recommend a book called 'Behind the 8 ball' by Linda Berman and Mary-Ellen Siegel which has helped me a lot over the past few months. I got it on Amazon so am sure you can get it. We have now separated as my husband will not get help, although he does admit that he has a problem. I hope your story has a happier ending. with best wishes, V