22-05-2010, 05:38 AM
Hi Nat,
I have just come on the site so I hope you get this reply a few months after the event. My husband is in GA and is coming up for 7 years this year which is a major achievement. I am very proud of the process that he has come through and where he is now. I do have to give one caveat though.... The change that an addict goes through will mean that there are fundamental changes that take place in his psyche and mind. This may sound obvious but I have been blinkered all the way through as it has been such a private journey for him with my support of his meetings of course and me wondering how to give other support but never being shown nor allowed really. So with the recovery - which importantly has to be seen as a LIFE LONG thing the partner - ie you- has to learn to adjust, accommodate and nurture. To do this really well, I think you need some support too. It all sounds so obvious to me now but I haven't done it and it has made things tough and me feel pushed out to some degree... but if I had understaood sooner then I would see clearly that this is actually a common part of the recovery process. It is hard for all involved but REALLY worth it and I just wish I could help more other than be supportive on this email..
I have just come on the site so I hope you get this reply a few months after the event. My husband is in GA and is coming up for 7 years this year which is a major achievement. I am very proud of the process that he has come through and where he is now. I do have to give one caveat though.... The change that an addict goes through will mean that there are fundamental changes that take place in his psyche and mind. This may sound obvious but I have been blinkered all the way through as it has been such a private journey for him with my support of his meetings of course and me wondering how to give other support but never being shown nor allowed really. So with the recovery - which importantly has to be seen as a LIFE LONG thing the partner - ie you- has to learn to adjust, accommodate and nurture. To do this really well, I think you need some support too. It all sounds so obvious to me now but I haven't done it and it has made things tough and me feel pushed out to some degree... but if I had understaood sooner then I would see clearly that this is actually a common part of the recovery process. It is hard for all involved but REALLY worth it and I just wish I could help more other than be supportive on this email..