My husband is a gambler - HELP!

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Hello Nat, I see that you have had quite a bit of responses to your post and I can give some from my pooint of view as I am a compulsive gambler who has been in recovery for over 10 years now. I remember the pain and suffering that I caused my family and friends and really I didn't have too much of them left towards the end of my gambling. I had my daughtr beg and plead with me to stop gambling and I just become more sneakier and thought I was hiding it from her and the others, but really my character was so bad and nasty that they could see right through me. My husband of 18 months walked out on me and still I gambled. I only got the help I needed through GA was when I was emotionally and financially bunkrupt and had no where else to turn. But I was at that time ready to accept the Gamblers Anonymous program once again as I had been in and out of their rooms for quite a few years. Your husband needs to do this for himself and not to please you, just be aware that us CG's can be pretty sneaky to be able to gamble. You may be able to go along to a meeting with him (permission granted) and as someone else suggested get along to a Gamanon meeting and this will help you to understand about this illness.
Do not leave money or cards laying around where your husband has access to them and maybe you will need to sit down with him and work out exactly where your money is going.
You take care and you come on back here and report on how you are going.
regards
Helen