23-02-2010, 11:26 AM
Hi Margaret
I am aCompulsive Gambler.
Sad situation. Sorry to hear of your problems.
Do you have a lifeline help phone number in the UK? He should get some counselling of some sort.
GAMCARE do have online & telephone counselling services. (They deal with gamblers & their families.)
If u can talk to him, try advising him to attend a GA meeting. He sounds like he is heading for a mighty fall.
Re the "bailing out" situation. You should never bail a gambler out of his debt. Otherwise, he will think he can always fall back on someone for help when he next needs some money.Then the cycle continues...He has to learn that there are consequences to his actions.
Re housing. I am assuming he has some friends, so do not worry about the cold. I am sure someone will accommodate him.
I also think you would benefit by attending a GAMANON meeting. These meetings are run by, and attended by the relatives & friends of problem gamblers. They will have more experience at this issue than me.
Best Wishes
Roy
I am aCompulsive Gambler.
Sad situation. Sorry to hear of your problems.
Do you have a lifeline help phone number in the UK? He should get some counselling of some sort.
GAMCARE do have online & telephone counselling services. (They deal with gamblers & their families.)
If u can talk to him, try advising him to attend a GA meeting. He sounds like he is heading for a mighty fall.
Re the "bailing out" situation. You should never bail a gambler out of his debt. Otherwise, he will think he can always fall back on someone for help when he next needs some money.Then the cycle continues...He has to learn that there are consequences to his actions.
Re housing. I am assuming he has some friends, so do not worry about the cold. I am sure someone will accommodate him.
I also think you would benefit by attending a GAMANON meeting. These meetings are run by, and attended by the relatives & friends of problem gamblers. They will have more experience at this issue than me.
Best Wishes
Roy