24-03-2010, 12:07 AM
Hi all,
My partner has been a gambler for almost 10 years. He has spent thousands of pounds in bingo halls, fruit machines and lately on-line casinos. At one time he spent all of his wages every month and was not able to support me and my 2 children. This was a very stressful time as my daughter was ill. It was not only about spending the money but it was spending all day on the computer and all night, not sleeping with me and not being involved with the family.
So many times he has promised me that he has stopped. I trust him and then I find invoices from casinos. It hurts more that he is not honest with me or honest with himself. I have forgiven him each time even though he has hurt me and most of all hurt himself. We recently have inhereted some money and he has spent some of the money already gambling. I still feel that he will continue to spend this money until it is all gone.
I feel so sad as he has so much potential on being such a great businessman but I feel if he does not contol this addiction it will spiral out of control and he will never achieve his dreams. What hurts the most is I know that he is depressed and suffering. He uses all sorts of excuses as to why he is down but I can see it is the addiction eating away inside of him. I love him so much and I never will give up on him. We are due to get married in May. I am hoping that we can both attend GA and make a new start. I am willing to go and support him but he has to make the decision to do this. I just pray for him that he does decide to do this so he can free himself and feel whole and complete.
I hopefully will see you at the next GA meeting if he decides to go and I will hold his hand all the way.....
Thanks for listening,
Donna
My partner has been a gambler for almost 10 years. He has spent thousands of pounds in bingo halls, fruit machines and lately on-line casinos. At one time he spent all of his wages every month and was not able to support me and my 2 children. This was a very stressful time as my daughter was ill. It was not only about spending the money but it was spending all day on the computer and all night, not sleeping with me and not being involved with the family.
So many times he has promised me that he has stopped. I trust him and then I find invoices from casinos. It hurts more that he is not honest with me or honest with himself. I have forgiven him each time even though he has hurt me and most of all hurt himself. We recently have inhereted some money and he has spent some of the money already gambling. I still feel that he will continue to spend this money until it is all gone.
I feel so sad as he has so much potential on being such a great businessman but I feel if he does not contol this addiction it will spiral out of control and he will never achieve his dreams. What hurts the most is I know that he is depressed and suffering. He uses all sorts of excuses as to why he is down but I can see it is the addiction eating away inside of him. I love him so much and I never will give up on him. We are due to get married in May. I am hoping that we can both attend GA and make a new start. I am willing to go and support him but he has to make the decision to do this. I just pray for him that he does decide to do this so he can free himself and feel whole and complete.
I hopefully will see you at the next GA meeting if he decides to go and I will hold his hand all the way.....
Thanks for listening,
Donna