26-05-2010, 01:05 PM
Hi Andy
You are right. I do see things clearer now. My life isn't a bed of roses, but it is certainly better than what it was when I was gambling.
As for... "perhaps 1 or 2 of my Sisters may care if anything happened,but my Father and the rest of them wouldn't care less." Try and reverse the roles as they are now. Would you rather one of your sisters committed suicide rather than contact you and ask you for help/support if they were the compulsive gambler? Sure you would probably be angry at their gambling, but wouldn't you want at least the chance to offer some help?
Andy, as I have said before, I tried the suicide route. When my family first saw me after they thought I had long gone, I realised that I would be missed. That I was indeed loved, and that I did love my family very much. They were angry with me, the gambler. Not me, their brother. They saw that I was not what I used to be, and knew that given the right guidance, help & support,
I could once again be a "good man".
And, there are free financial counsellors available to you in the UK. Use them. Find out where you stand. You also have access to free online/telephone & face to face counselling. Use these services.
I had to use the services of a counsellor to help with my "issues'. I thought it was all BS... my mind has now changed as they helped me a great deal.
Hang in there Andy, we all deserve to live a happy life... that includes you my friend.
Best wishes
Roy
You are right. I do see things clearer now. My life isn't a bed of roses, but it is certainly better than what it was when I was gambling.
As for... "perhaps 1 or 2 of my Sisters may care if anything happened,but my Father and the rest of them wouldn't care less." Try and reverse the roles as they are now. Would you rather one of your sisters committed suicide rather than contact you and ask you for help/support if they were the compulsive gambler? Sure you would probably be angry at their gambling, but wouldn't you want at least the chance to offer some help?
Andy, as I have said before, I tried the suicide route. When my family first saw me after they thought I had long gone, I realised that I would be missed. That I was indeed loved, and that I did love my family very much. They were angry with me, the gambler. Not me, their brother. They saw that I was not what I used to be, and knew that given the right guidance, help & support,
I could once again be a "good man".
And, there are free financial counsellors available to you in the UK. Use them. Find out where you stand. You also have access to free online/telephone & face to face counselling. Use these services.
I had to use the services of a counsellor to help with my "issues'. I thought it was all BS... my mind has now changed as they helped me a great deal.
Hang in there Andy, we all deserve to live a happy life... that includes you my friend.
Best wishes
Roy