03-06-2010, 12:39 PM
Hi jo23
The answer to your question was in your post when you said that as a couple you had never been happier whilst he was attending GA.
Once he stopped attending GA, the roof started to fall in again.
Depression is a very common illness. It is a consequence of our gambling addiction.
If we stop the gambling, our lives improve and so our depressive nature disappears (mostly).
Will he hurt himself? I do not know the answer. Bear this in mind however. I did attempt suicide due to my gambling problems. I did NOT tell anyone that I was going to do this, because I didn't want anyone to try to stop me.
For him to stop gambling, he has to WANT to stop. You can NOT make him.
All you can do is offer him support. If you feel that you are at the stage that you can not live with him anymore...again that is a decision only you can make.
Do NOT blame yourself. You are NOT to blame.
May I suggest that you attend some GAMANON meetings. You have already said that you found help within that group. Maybe now, with some more life experience you may gain a much better insight into our world, and be better able to understand how you can and can't assist him.
Best wishes
Roy
The answer to your question was in your post when you said that as a couple you had never been happier whilst he was attending GA.
Once he stopped attending GA, the roof started to fall in again.
Depression is a very common illness. It is a consequence of our gambling addiction.
If we stop the gambling, our lives improve and so our depressive nature disappears (mostly).
Will he hurt himself? I do not know the answer. Bear this in mind however. I did attempt suicide due to my gambling problems. I did NOT tell anyone that I was going to do this, because I didn't want anyone to try to stop me.
For him to stop gambling, he has to WANT to stop. You can NOT make him.
All you can do is offer him support. If you feel that you are at the stage that you can not live with him anymore...again that is a decision only you can make.
Do NOT blame yourself. You are NOT to blame.
May I suggest that you attend some GAMANON meetings. You have already said that you found help within that group. Maybe now, with some more life experience you may gain a much better insight into our world, and be better able to understand how you can and can't assist him.
Best wishes
Roy