22-06-2010, 06:39 PM
Pleased to hear your doing well, I am in a similar situation to you in that I now pay all my bills by debit card the second I get paid & transfer the rest to my partners bank account. I generally do this all online before I leave the house on pay day as I just cant trust myself with my bank card/ money. I only carry a few pounds to buy anything I need during the day.
I found before doing this that although I was trying to tackle my problem, I like you would go out and get maybe a small amount out and end up spending it in the betting shop, although I was then walking away (more through fear that my partner would cach me) and going home I realised that it was only a matter of time before I went once with the small amount and it ended up being a large amount.
So my advice is be very careful of this as I think i's a bit like that small glass of champagne to the alcoholic, we think we can control it & end up kidding ourselves until the addiction sneaks up on us again and whack we do something we really regret.
I think you are right to be mad with youself as I always was when I lapsed like this and it was this that eventually made me do what I now do with my money. The only time I now carry anything resembling real money is if I'm going to buy petrol or pehaps going for an evening out with friends and the latter is a time I have to be really careful!!!
I found before doing this that although I was trying to tackle my problem, I like you would go out and get maybe a small amount out and end up spending it in the betting shop, although I was then walking away (more through fear that my partner would cach me) and going home I realised that it was only a matter of time before I went once with the small amount and it ended up being a large amount.
So my advice is be very careful of this as I think i's a bit like that small glass of champagne to the alcoholic, we think we can control it & end up kidding ourselves until the addiction sneaks up on us again and whack we do something we really regret.
I think you are right to be mad with youself as I always was when I lapsed like this and it was this that eventually made me do what I now do with my money. The only time I now carry anything resembling real money is if I'm going to buy petrol or pehaps going for an evening out with friends and the latter is a time I have to be really careful!!!