20-07-2010, 09:11 PM
Hi there.
One of the hardest things a gambler has to do and everyone else has to come to terms with is that they are seeking help for themself. If they do it for others, no matter how hard the circumstances, it will fail. Failure to go to GA meetings regular...it will fail. Of course help and support, both emotionally and practically (do not let them have cash) all help along the way.
This is a mental illness that will never go away. I do not say this to frighten you, but to help all involved understand that this is ongoing. This is where people think after a few months of trying, everything will be ok and therefore no need to go to meetings anymore. The desire will remain, it is about making sure that in those times of weakness, there are people to talk to and no money available, no matter what excuse we give - WE CAN BE GREAT AND CONVINCING LIARS.
As we gamblers learn to deal with things, we suddenly realise what time we have for our families and loved ones and these become the most important things. Be strong, but above all else, do not succome to lies, only you will know how far you can go and whether they are prepared to take the journey. In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer.
Paul
One of the hardest things a gambler has to do and everyone else has to come to terms with is that they are seeking help for themself. If they do it for others, no matter how hard the circumstances, it will fail. Failure to go to GA meetings regular...it will fail. Of course help and support, both emotionally and practically (do not let them have cash) all help along the way.
This is a mental illness that will never go away. I do not say this to frighten you, but to help all involved understand that this is ongoing. This is where people think after a few months of trying, everything will be ok and therefore no need to go to meetings anymore. The desire will remain, it is about making sure that in those times of weakness, there are people to talk to and no money available, no matter what excuse we give - WE CAN BE GREAT AND CONVINCING LIARS.
As we gamblers learn to deal with things, we suddenly realise what time we have for our families and loved ones and these become the most important things. Be strong, but above all else, do not succome to lies, only you will know how far you can go and whether they are prepared to take the journey. In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer.
Paul