23-07-2010, 06:27 PM
Well where to start... around christmas time I found my partner was gambling a excessive amount, he admitted it and agreed he would only bet on big race meetings, ie chelteham/ goodwood etc etc. This was what I had been told he had always done in the past.
Anyway for the past week I noticed he has been watching a lot of racing, so I have asked him if he's had a bet, he's been denying it and said that it was just a certain horse that he wanted to watch the form of etc etc.
Well he left his betfair account open today and I spotted it when I got home from work. He has been betting, he had 40 bets today alone. So I looked further into his account, he deposited hundreds in 20 days. This is only his betfair account, he also has other online accounts and I believe he also bets inshop.
I have spoke to him about it and he has admitted it, he says he will stop after goodwood - which he already has booked and goes to every year. He wants me to block his accounts so that he can only go on with my supervision to do small bets and big meetings. I have explained to him that he will still be addicted if he bets. But all of his friends bet, and they all go to meetings together and this goodwood holiday together. Also the Major thing in all of this is he is a manager of a betting shop, and therefore gambling is around him day in day out so he can't remove him self from it.
I don't know what to say to him, I feel so hurt and let down from his lies, I have had lots of lies from ex partners and he promised he would never lie to me again and that he would confide in me if he felt his gambling was becoming excessive again. I feel that the trust has gone from our relationship.
I think he should apply for some other jobs away from gambling and discuss his problems with his gambling freinds so they won't discuss bets with him. And I think he should give up all gambling, but I doubt he will do any of these.
In the meantime can anyone give me any advice on how to handle this and also how to block the gambling sites on the computer - maybe with password control.
Thanks in advance
shel
Anyway for the past week I noticed he has been watching a lot of racing, so I have asked him if he's had a bet, he's been denying it and said that it was just a certain horse that he wanted to watch the form of etc etc.
Well he left his betfair account open today and I spotted it when I got home from work. He has been betting, he had 40 bets today alone. So I looked further into his account, he deposited hundreds in 20 days. This is only his betfair account, he also has other online accounts and I believe he also bets inshop.
I have spoke to him about it and he has admitted it, he says he will stop after goodwood - which he already has booked and goes to every year. He wants me to block his accounts so that he can only go on with my supervision to do small bets and big meetings. I have explained to him that he will still be addicted if he bets. But all of his friends bet, and they all go to meetings together and this goodwood holiday together. Also the Major thing in all of this is he is a manager of a betting shop, and therefore gambling is around him day in day out so he can't remove him self from it.
I don't know what to say to him, I feel so hurt and let down from his lies, I have had lots of lies from ex partners and he promised he would never lie to me again and that he would confide in me if he felt his gambling was becoming excessive again. I feel that the trust has gone from our relationship.
I think he should apply for some other jobs away from gambling and discuss his problems with his gambling freinds so they won't discuss bets with him. And I think he should give up all gambling, but I doubt he will do any of these.
In the meantime can anyone give me any advice on how to handle this and also how to block the gambling sites on the computer - maybe with password control.
Thanks in advance
shel