30-07-2010, 10:01 AM
Hi John,
Okay so you're not gambling but you don't have any money, even so you can still build on this. I used to get paid monthly at my old job and it eventually got to a point where withing 2-3 days it would all be gone, i'd have to borrow/steal just to get to work, obviously i tended to end up back at the bookies instead. It didn't start like that, just a quick progression.
If you really want to give yourself the best chance you can then i'd highly advise going to your local meeting, you've already said that you stop gambling when you don't have money but as soon as you get some it dies. Also, although it's nice to have this idea that you're going to treat your girlfriend and child with the money you don't gamble. I'd say concentrate more on just not gambling, I'm pretty sure that the person you can become overshadows a money based treat. I think maybe get away from having money as a focus for making yourself and people around you happy.
I really hope you can get yourself to a meeting and build on the start you've created for yourself, you don't have to be strong and suffer in silence by yourself!! I was in a similar position to yourself in that I stopped when I had no avenue to get anymore money (Had just told my best mate a sob story to get rent and then spaffed it) as a result I went to my first G.A meeting and never looked back and never felt so good.
One day at a time!
Okay so you're not gambling but you don't have any money, even so you can still build on this. I used to get paid monthly at my old job and it eventually got to a point where withing 2-3 days it would all be gone, i'd have to borrow/steal just to get to work, obviously i tended to end up back at the bookies instead. It didn't start like that, just a quick progression.
If you really want to give yourself the best chance you can then i'd highly advise going to your local meeting, you've already said that you stop gambling when you don't have money but as soon as you get some it dies. Also, although it's nice to have this idea that you're going to treat your girlfriend and child with the money you don't gamble. I'd say concentrate more on just not gambling, I'm pretty sure that the person you can become overshadows a money based treat. I think maybe get away from having money as a focus for making yourself and people around you happy.
I really hope you can get yourself to a meeting and build on the start you've created for yourself, you don't have to be strong and suffer in silence by yourself!! I was in a similar position to yourself in that I stopped when I had no avenue to get anymore money (Had just told my best mate a sob story to get rent and then spaffed it) as a result I went to my first G.A meeting and never looked back and never felt so good.
One day at a time!