12-08-2010, 01:09 PM
The fact that you haven't gambled is great. Life can be very tough when abstaining from gambling and like yourself, I find that motivation to do anything can be very difficult. For instance, I have got a tremendous amount of work to do for exams at the end of this month yet I find myself slacking constantly. I know that if I don't put the work in I won't succeed but sometimes knowing this isn't enough.
I guess on occasion we literally have to force ourselves to things we don't want to do. Like it says in ''Just For Today'' - Just for today I will do two things I don't want to do - just for exercise. I find that if I do do things even when I am not motivated enough to do it it can be very rewarding. Laziness is a common trait of compulsive gamblers.
I guess what you are discovering is that we do need to change our personalities otherwise we will inevitably fall back into our gambling ways. Try doing some work on the steps or keep a diary of how you feel. Then it would be advisable to do some voulentary work or something to try boost your motivation to do other things. I have found that when I have a routine in my life I can be highly motivated.
Keep going Andy; you're doing really well. 3 months into the recovery is a difficult time for all as the high we feel from not gambling has worn off and we don't know what to do with ourselves.
All the best and stay strong,
Edi
I guess on occasion we literally have to force ourselves to things we don't want to do. Like it says in ''Just For Today'' - Just for today I will do two things I don't want to do - just for exercise. I find that if I do do things even when I am not motivated enough to do it it can be very rewarding. Laziness is a common trait of compulsive gamblers.
I guess what you are discovering is that we do need to change our personalities otherwise we will inevitably fall back into our gambling ways. Try doing some work on the steps or keep a diary of how you feel. Then it would be advisable to do some voulentary work or something to try boost your motivation to do other things. I have found that when I have a routine in my life I can be highly motivated.
Keep going Andy; you're doing really well. 3 months into the recovery is a difficult time for all as the high we feel from not gambling has worn off and we don't know what to do with ourselves.
All the best and stay strong,
Edi