09-10-2010, 08:17 PM
Hi there,
Pleased to hear that you are repaying your mother back the money she bailed you out with. That is the right attitude. Unfortuently bailing out people with gambling addictions tends to be a waste of money if they don't arrest the problem. A similar thing happened to me, what a relief, but because I did not address the cause of the problem I carried on gambling and racked up the debts again. My parents might as well of sent me to the bookies with the money in the first place rather than pay my debts off.
I completely agree with Barrie regarding coming clean to your mother, it might hurt but it will be better in the long run. Obvious advice is for you to attend a GA meeting. You might or might not want to do that, it's up to you. Getting a credit card is a bad idea, all you will end up with is a maxed out credit card at a stupid intrest rate and probably still run up an overdraft. When this happens it is going to be even more difficult to come clean with your mother, especially with the amount of lies you will have been telling her to cover your tracks (we have all done it).
With your mothers help you can get a blocker put on your PC to stop you accessing gambling sites. I would also advise you getting internet banking and letting your mother know the password so that she can check your balance regularly. This might make you think twice before performing a gambling transaction.
There is lots more advice that could help you abstain from gambling, but you will have to go to a meeting to get it. I hope you do.
Adam.
Pleased to hear that you are repaying your mother back the money she bailed you out with. That is the right attitude. Unfortuently bailing out people with gambling addictions tends to be a waste of money if they don't arrest the problem. A similar thing happened to me, what a relief, but because I did not address the cause of the problem I carried on gambling and racked up the debts again. My parents might as well of sent me to the bookies with the money in the first place rather than pay my debts off.
I completely agree with Barrie regarding coming clean to your mother, it might hurt but it will be better in the long run. Obvious advice is for you to attend a GA meeting. You might or might not want to do that, it's up to you. Getting a credit card is a bad idea, all you will end up with is a maxed out credit card at a stupid intrest rate and probably still run up an overdraft. When this happens it is going to be even more difficult to come clean with your mother, especially with the amount of lies you will have been telling her to cover your tracks (we have all done it).
With your mothers help you can get a blocker put on your PC to stop you accessing gambling sites. I would also advise you getting internet banking and letting your mother know the password so that she can check your balance regularly. This might make you think twice before performing a gambling transaction.
There is lots more advice that could help you abstain from gambling, but you will have to go to a meeting to get it. I hope you do.
Adam.