22-03-2011, 02:36 PM
I would appreciate any advice anyone has to share,
I found out my husband gambled last week and we are now in a bit of debt. When i found out i was supportive and have found a group for him to go to and we are deeling wif his issues together, he said he feels like a big weight has been lifted off his shoulders now i know, the trouble is it has landed onto mine. Its not so much the money that is bothering me although being on the phone trying to sort all that out all week hasnt helped its the trust issue and i feel like a huge part of my love for him has gone.........i feel angry.......i feel stressed........i cry every day!
We havent even been married 6 months and i wonder if i have made a mistake because when i look at him at the minute i dont feel much because i ask myself how much he must have felt about me when he looked me in the eye and lied.....constantly!!!!!! I have a 2 year old that is running me raggid, no friends that understand how i feel and a family who wouldnt understand either, i have started smoking alot again, and i feel like he is giving me no support only feeling sorry for himself, i feel like im breaking down.
Please dont suggest going to a gamanon meeting as the nearest is quite a distance and with my son i couldnt make meetings despite being desperate for someone to give me some answers, i know it will possible help but i just cant go, despite anything we cant afford food at the minute never mind petrol money.
I guess i just want someone to tell me they know how i feel, and i will get back to feeling how i felt about him before! Im so lonely at the minute, i dont know what to do!
I found out my husband gambled last week and we are now in a bit of debt. When i found out i was supportive and have found a group for him to go to and we are deeling wif his issues together, he said he feels like a big weight has been lifted off his shoulders now i know, the trouble is it has landed onto mine. Its not so much the money that is bothering me although being on the phone trying to sort all that out all week hasnt helped its the trust issue and i feel like a huge part of my love for him has gone.........i feel angry.......i feel stressed........i cry every day!
We havent even been married 6 months and i wonder if i have made a mistake because when i look at him at the minute i dont feel much because i ask myself how much he must have felt about me when he looked me in the eye and lied.....constantly!!!!!! I have a 2 year old that is running me raggid, no friends that understand how i feel and a family who wouldnt understand either, i have started smoking alot again, and i feel like he is giving me no support only feeling sorry for himself, i feel like im breaking down.
Please dont suggest going to a gamanon meeting as the nearest is quite a distance and with my son i couldnt make meetings despite being desperate for someone to give me some answers, i know it will possible help but i just cant go, despite anything we cant afford food at the minute never mind petrol money.
I guess i just want someone to tell me they know how i feel, and i will get back to feeling how i felt about him before! Im so lonely at the minute, i dont know what to do!