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How to be Honest, without losing built up trust?
I am a compulsive gambler and went to GA in May 09. My finances was a mess being deep in debt with no-where to turn. I needed help to get a normal life back so I found GA on here and went to a session on a monday night in the local area. My misses was expecting her first, so I needed no more motivation to sort my life out. I went to GA at first, and then came clean with the misses. It didn't go down too well, but my girl stuck by me, and I went to GA every week. I attended GA for a year and refrained from gambling. I was so adamant in my head, that I would never go back to gambling, as this physically made me feel so sick, I thought I could manage without the weekly GA session. 2 years have passed, and life is very good compared to what it was. In this time, I have had a beautiful daughter, got married, been on many holidays, new car, and out of 3 credit cards, an overdraft and 2 large loans, only 1 loan remains.

The trust between my wife is fully restored, and she believes I will never gamble again. Due to my job, it is impossible to hand control of my finances to the wife, so I have done all this rehab with alot of self control albeit lots of help from the wife and fellow GA members. As things have relaxed in terms of money, and finance, I have had the occasional visit to Casino, Bookies, but bet small within limits I have set, something I had not done before.

Over the last week, this has started to escalate, and last night I deposited over 6 times (several hundred) playing online cash poker, money I am relying on for the month. Fortunately with my last of the 6 deposits, I managed to win over half back, which should be able to see me through the rest of the month at a squeeze without raising any suspicion from the wife...

I am in a predicament. Tell my wife I have gambled, and lose the trust I have built over the last two years? It is clear I need to get myself back down to GA, but I don't want to at the expense of my life right now..... Any suggestions?

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How to be Honest, without losing built up trust? - by Marc Stuart - 28-04-2011, 10:33 AM
Re: How to be Honest, without losing built up trust? - by Barrieexgambler - 28-04-2011, 12:17 PM
Re: How to be Honest, without losing built up trust? - by Marc Stuart - 28-04-2011, 01:55 PM

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