01-05-2011, 12:34 AM
hi dave,
very wise words and i 99% agree with u, ive been attending GA since june2010 and ive struggled through it isnt easy, for a newcomer to the site they might not understand how hard it is and certainly to realize things dont happen over night,in our "dream bet world" we try to have everything instantly.so to come from that to "real life" as such is a massive switch.Even if we r ready 100% to stop and start attending meets the past will still haunt us, regreting things we have done/lost. ive learnt it doesnt matter who you are we are all at different stages of recovery and look at recovery in different ways. YES meets are the most important thing to a CG but we all handle them in different ways.When i advise ppl to go to a meet i always put across its 2 hours of ur life what have you to loose, if its not for you then so be it, im pretty confident 99% will go back the second time,the point being i know what i was like , i was scared and ashamed to go, it wasnt untill i actually went i realized i wasnt alone.IF i was new to the site and asked for help and was just told straight away GO TO meet i to be honest wouldnt come back,it takes alot of guts,courage and a little loss of self pride to admit we are CG it certainly was the case for me.all im saying maybe a little diplomecy/thought into what we say in the chat room, its a serious site for a serious illness, but there are means and ways to put this across to folk without feeling like they are feeling pressured. As for excuses for not going to meets, i work away alot so can not always attend,excuse it may be but its a genuine one and although i need my meetings, putting food on my kids plates will always take priority.
anyway ive always taken alot from what u have said on the site as a whole, all part of my recovery,i'll keep going another day after all we can only make it ONE DAY AT A TIME <!-- s
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tc JAY
very wise words and i 99% agree with u, ive been attending GA since june2010 and ive struggled through it isnt easy, for a newcomer to the site they might not understand how hard it is and certainly to realize things dont happen over night,in our "dream bet world" we try to have everything instantly.so to come from that to "real life" as such is a massive switch.Even if we r ready 100% to stop and start attending meets the past will still haunt us, regreting things we have done/lost. ive learnt it doesnt matter who you are we are all at different stages of recovery and look at recovery in different ways. YES meets are the most important thing to a CG but we all handle them in different ways.When i advise ppl to go to a meet i always put across its 2 hours of ur life what have you to loose, if its not for you then so be it, im pretty confident 99% will go back the second time,the point being i know what i was like , i was scared and ashamed to go, it wasnt untill i actually went i realized i wasnt alone.IF i was new to the site and asked for help and was just told straight away GO TO meet i to be honest wouldnt come back,it takes alot of guts,courage and a little loss of self pride to admit we are CG it certainly was the case for me.all im saying maybe a little diplomecy/thought into what we say in the chat room, its a serious site for a serious illness, but there are means and ways to put this across to folk without feeling like they are feeling pressured. As for excuses for not going to meets, i work away alot so can not always attend,excuse it may be but its a genuine one and although i need my meetings, putting food on my kids plates will always take priority.
anyway ive always taken alot from what u have said on the site as a whole, all part of my recovery,i'll keep going another day after all we can only make it ONE DAY AT A TIME <!-- s
--><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_smile.gif" alt="" title="Smile" /><!-- s --> tc JAY