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Desperate for help.....
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Nicky firstly and most importantly well done. You cannot begin fixing something untill you are aware that it is broken. admitting this is a problem for you is the first and i believe the most important step.

There are things you can do straight away and more you can do that will take time.

The first thing would be get yourself to a meeting its gonna be a couple of hours and a couple of hours well spent. Your first meeting you will get to hear what others have been upto what others are struggling with and you can just listen, if you want to talk you can there is NO pressure. Everyone there is there for the same reason you are so you are not going to be judged the people you will be listen and speaking to understand more than anyone else. You will get soem great advice!!!

A few practical things you can do are go into the places that you are gambling and ask to be self excluded. This means that they will normally ask you to fill in a quick form and give them a passport photo and if they catch you in there they will sling you out. Worked for me the though of the embarresment of being thrown out of the bookies was enough for me not to go in at all.

Speak to people about your problem this doesn't have to be your partner straight away, do you have a close friend or relative I know it sounds strange but most people actually understand to some degree and want to help. If i am in a pub with friends they will activley sit away from a fruit machine and not think anything of it people want what is best for you.

ok the debts i think this is always the worst bit at the start and it is a long haul out. You can actually phone or even write to creditors and explain that you are really struggling with paying them, ask them to freeze the interest and see if you can strike a repayment deal with them. They see a lot of pople taking IVA's (indivisual voluntary agreement) or going bankrupt if this happens they get less money back or none at all. Trust me they will want to help you.

You have a part time job you can use this money to pay back and also live. If you get paid cash it may be worth asking your employer to pay into your account leave them a cashing in book. (test the waters first you don't neccasarilly want to tell your employer about your gambling)

In terms of understanding this all you seem to be using gambling as an escapism. I gamble in the same way, when i am gambling I have no care for the money i am simply gambling to win more time. The longer i am gambling the longer i am avoiding my demons. I used to walk into casinos knowing i was going to lose everything, I had every intention of losing everything all wins just equalled more time untill i had to face life again. Its not good have a word with your doctor he may be able to help even to refer you to councilling or others forms of dealing with whats bothering you.

Anyhoo I hope i have been of some assistance and will stop babbling at you. Now check out the meetings page and find your nearest. If you had time to gamble you have time to get to a meeting don't make excuses for it.

I wish you all the best.
thinking of you
Daryl x
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