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The Journey Begins
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Chris_b

I read your message a few weeks ago now, and I have now used that phrase too in my GA group - it's very powerful, and especially for an old codger like me where cassette tapes and video tapes where physical items that I grew up with and loved.

I'm pleased to be able to move on with my life, and I'm proud to be at least a weekly member of my local GA. We've got a good bond with the group going, and many of us are now firm friends. Ask me 12 months ago if I'd be socialising with a bunch of people with a compulsive disorder and I'd have laughed at you.....the laugh would have been derision as deep down I knew I also had a problem.

Two days ago, I reached 300 days of abstinence. And more recently the time seems to have sped up. Most of the time now I am able to walk past bookmakers easier and the magnetic force that the used to have on me has dropped a massive amount. It is still there though, I suspect it always will be.

With my Anti Gamble GA suit of armour on though, I hope to survive and defeat any challenge that I'm faced with.

Determined is the word I am most comfortable with...determined that I will succeed in staying clean from this problem.

I've had a chat with my conscience in the last week or so.....as I've been invited to a quiz night next week. It is for charity and there will of course be prizes for 1st/2nd/3rd etc. Some members of my GA group, would consider anything where you place a bet or in this case an entrance fee for a chance of winning a prize (I presume a trophy and possibly a bottle of wine) as a gamble.

I've thought long and hard about this, and decided that I am happy to not class this as a gamble. If we do happen to win a prize, I am going to give it away immediately, and for any on the night raffle that is held, I will make a donation but will not accept any raffle tickets.

This is a quiz that I've done for many years, and my team mates are ex work colleagues from my original place of work...I started in 1993 so they are old friends that I see rarely.

For me, part of the success of the program, is being able to return (almost) to a normal way of life. I know that I can never have a bet again, and I'm at peace with that.
If people from my group aren't happy with my choice on the quiz, then I will have to live with that. I would though ask anyone that if you consider that a bet, then presumably you consider any pension that you have to also be a bet as 99% of the pensions on offer have some level of risk/reward inbuilt within them.

It's about having that perspective line and being happy with yourself that you're on the right side of it.

Job is going well, am also at the 9 month mark and loving it. it has though got very busy in the last few weeks and my work life balance has shifted towards work a bit. lots of project work on, and thankfully it's beginning to subside, so I hope I can spend more time on the forums/chat rooms to try to offer help and support to other compulsive gamblers.

Hope you are all well,

Determination is the key to staying stopped.

STS
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The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 09-01-2018, 08:30 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 13-01-2018, 09:46 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 17-01-2018, 04:43 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 23-01-2018, 09:17 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 24-01-2018, 11:18 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 01-02-2018, 09:44 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 13-02-2018, 05:29 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 13-02-2018, 05:47 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 20-02-2018, 10:51 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 28-02-2018, 12:07 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 28-02-2018, 12:28 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 06-03-2018, 10:41 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 12-03-2018, 11:19 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 20-03-2018, 10:48 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 27-03-2018, 06:36 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by smartie - 28-03-2018, 06:51 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 29-03-2018, 10:21 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 06-04-2018, 02:27 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 06-04-2018, 03:21 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 19-04-2018, 06:48 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 01-05-2018, 07:58 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 01-05-2018, 09:08 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 09-05-2018, 12:49 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 09-05-2018, 01:49 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 09-05-2018, 04:09 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 30-05-2018, 09:46 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 31-05-2018, 11:03 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 03-07-2018, 11:48 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 07-07-2018, 01:40 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 09-07-2018, 08:41 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 19-07-2018, 09:49 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 01-08-2018, 09:22 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Simmo - 01-08-2018, 09:39 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 02-09-2018, 08:25 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 18-09-2018, 07:43 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Chris_b - 18-09-2018, 10:39 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 11-10-2018, 10:17 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by Chris_b - 12-10-2018, 09:15 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 30-12-2018, 09:48 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by shoebox - 07-01-2019, 12:30 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 20-06-2019, 06:37 AM
RE: The Journey Begins - by StrengthToStop - 20-05-2020, 02:45 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by shoebox - 21-05-2020, 08:06 PM
RE: The Journey Begins - by gadaveuk - 04-07-2020, 05:48 AM

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