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HI JO,
Understanding the compulsive gambler is confusing to say the least. Measuring the extent of a persons addiction by how much they spend or are in debt is not neccessary a guide as each individuals access to fiances are very varied. what is clear is that your partner is consumed by his desire to satisfy the gambling urges that shout out in his addicted body. GA would give your partner the undivided support, tools, stradedgies and experience which would aid his recovery immensley, what GA cant give is the desire will power that has to come from within the hoast of the addiction.
You yourself can guide and sign post and support him but you can not do his recovery for him, my words may seem a little harsh but then this addiction is harsh, as well as destructive, sole destroying, but to name a couple of devasting ripples.
if love alone cured the common gambler there there wouldnt be any addicts, tough love, knowledge and strength is whats needed, financial protection and close monitoring, blocking software installed on computers, self banning from bookies and casinos, are all barriers that can easily be put into place, continuity, committment and personal self development have to come from him.(he has to want to change, talk is cheap jo its actions that count )
Theres an organisation called GamAnon which i think could educate as well as support you through your partners addiction. Theres also GA chat were you would meet, talk and get great support and knowledge. Compulsive gambling is now a recognised illness its not understood by most but its government recognised. which will hopefully mean that the correct help and support can at some stage be filtered and absorbed by the gambler and hopefully be a sucessfull aid for there recovery, a helpline is about to be launched and there are a few assosiations springing up and around to offer support.
In all this though jo you must not forget yourself, you are just as affected by your partners illness, so make time for you, get your hair done, have lunch with a friend, a few hours away from a situation can often clear the mind and take away the cloud of confusion. Your needs are equally as important as his so take care jo and i wish you and your partner all the best for the new year.
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partner - by Jo - 24-12-2009, 04:49 PM
Re: partner - by David Barnsley - 01-01-2010, 05:30 PM
Re: partner - by tj - 01-01-2010, 07:56 PM
Re: partner - by Steven - 02-01-2010, 10:50 AM

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