24-08-2010, 10:57 AM
hi nat, just read your post, it has me tears as i just put my husband out last nite, it was the last thing i wanted to do, miss him loads and when he rang me in middle of the nite and ask if he could come home it broke my heart and i have my little 4 year old asking whens daddy coming home and i almost gave in but i now know i have to let him know i will not live like this anymore for me or my two children who are 14 and 4. lve been with him 11 years but have only know about his gambling a few years when he gambled our hoilday money away but promised me it would never happen again. i believed him to then find out a few months later from my brother he was still at it. lve heard all the same stuff finding betting slips and being told there for a friend and he only went in the bookies for a friend. when i stayed with him the 2nd time he promised me he would give me all his money every week, i told him if he walked back in a bookies door that would be it for sure. so this week money was missin he told me he lent to his sister, i had a bad feelin about this so rang her to find he didnt, when i said to him he lied to my face 4 times saying he had this was the first time he stood and lied to me, when i knew it was a lie for sure and that hurt so much. i really feel like ive lost the man i love and dont no how to get him back. he still denys gambling that money but there have been so many lies, how can i believe anything he says anymore, am just fed up being made to feel am blowing things out of proportion, most of all i somehow feel ive been a bad wife, if i had been better maybe he could have talked to me before it went this far. would love to hear from other people as it might help me understand this a bit more.