16-09-2010, 12:37 PM
Hi, my husband (of 5 weeks) is a compulsive gambler. My major dilemma is
that he is in COMPLETE denial. As I am at the end of my tether I looked at the website and I have read the posts in this forum. I find I can relate to so many of the comments. I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 yrs and this is a second marriage for both of us. I have 2 children ages 14 and 10 and we have a daughter age 3.
My husband lies about everything. He tells me he is going to the shop and it takes
4 - 5 hrs for him to come back. He tells me he has no money but (because of
my suspicions re him gambling) on going thro' his pockets I find money and
bookie dockets. I know he has friends who gamble online etc and he is spending
more and more time with them as he currently has no work (he is a self-employed
electrician). Yesterday he went to the shop to get a pie for dinner. He was gone and hour and came back empty handed. On his return I was on the phone and he left the house without saying anything and returned with the pie 10 mins later.Later that afternoon he went to pick up my 10 yr old from school. He left her at the top of the street (4 doors away from our house) to walk on down and disappeared off on his own. He didnt return until 11 pm that nite. I went through his pockets when he was asleep and found bookie dockets and money. He has sold jewellery (belonging to himself) but lied about doing so telling me its in his bedside drawer (and its not its gone).
Currently we are in financial difficulty but awaiting the clearance in the bank of a cheque he has obtained from an injury at work claim (ligitimate) but I am EXTREMELY concerned about what is going to happen when he has access to this money (considering he gambled the money he got from the settlement of his divorce and sale of his home).
On going thro' websites on Gambling Issues I realise I have been tackling everything the wrong way. I lose the rag with him, I point out all his flaws and generally go in to a major rant. I can't cope with this much longer and he really is going to end up losing us all. The lies he tells are so ridiculous and the amount of time doing all this is every single day bar none.
that he is in COMPLETE denial. As I am at the end of my tether I looked at the website and I have read the posts in this forum. I find I can relate to so many of the comments. I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 yrs and this is a second marriage for both of us. I have 2 children ages 14 and 10 and we have a daughter age 3.
My husband lies about everything. He tells me he is going to the shop and it takes
4 - 5 hrs for him to come back. He tells me he has no money but (because of
my suspicions re him gambling) on going thro' his pockets I find money and
bookie dockets. I know he has friends who gamble online etc and he is spending
more and more time with them as he currently has no work (he is a self-employed
electrician). Yesterday he went to the shop to get a pie for dinner. He was gone and hour and came back empty handed. On his return I was on the phone and he left the house without saying anything and returned with the pie 10 mins later.Later that afternoon he went to pick up my 10 yr old from school. He left her at the top of the street (4 doors away from our house) to walk on down and disappeared off on his own. He didnt return until 11 pm that nite. I went through his pockets when he was asleep and found bookie dockets and money. He has sold jewellery (belonging to himself) but lied about doing so telling me its in his bedside drawer (and its not its gone).
Currently we are in financial difficulty but awaiting the clearance in the bank of a cheque he has obtained from an injury at work claim (ligitimate) but I am EXTREMELY concerned about what is going to happen when he has access to this money (considering he gambled the money he got from the settlement of his divorce and sale of his home).
On going thro' websites on Gambling Issues I realise I have been tackling everything the wrong way. I lose the rag with him, I point out all his flaws and generally go in to a major rant. I can't cope with this much longer and he really is going to end up losing us all. The lies he tells are so ridiculous and the amount of time doing all this is every single day bar none.