09-03-2011, 12:41 PM
Hi i am in a very similar position to the person above. My husband is in the army and he has a serious gambling problem. We have our own house that we only managed to keep as i was working and took care of the bills. My husband has put me through hell to the point where i had no money to buy baby milk!! Over the past couple of years he has improved mainly because i have control of nearly all the money and we have been sent abroad so less opportunity. I know now that he has been secretly gambling and am gutted. It is not as much as before but to me the smallest amount is devastating. He does not see it like this and thinks he can only do it a little bit without it being a problem when i know this is not the case. I am scared about coming back to the UK as i suspect things will go back to how they were before. We have two young children and i cannot cope with the anger involved with the addiction. My husband can be very aggressive when gambling and will lie all the time. How many people actually give this addiction up forever? I am seriously considering leaving my husband as i cannot deal with the hiding everything away and worrying about money all the time. He hates me bringing up the past as he argues he cannot move on if i do this, however i am the one working hard to pay off the debts and feel that if i am to do this he should not gamble at all. My concern is that as soon as my husband has access to money he gambles it. I do not feel that he has overcome his problem because of this reason, things have only improved as i have control of most of the money!! I really would appreicate some help as this has been going on for nearly 7 years and i do not know what to do. I am reaching the lowest point not him and i feel i am the only one suffering as his family know the extent of his problem but do not talk to him about it.