11-02-2010, 06:15 AM
Hi,
My husband has been gambling for years and I have caught him out on numerous occasions. The last time was a year ago and we are in the process of settling the debts and I thought just coming through it. The trouble is the lies - I feel I can never trust him so I go through his pockets!! Anyway the other day I found a betting slip and when I questioned him he said 'no' he has not been in a betting shop for ages. Obviously I had the slip in my hands so he couldnt deny it anymore - he said it was for the guys at work and I am blowing this out of all proportion. I feel absolutely 'gutted' and physically sick. We have 3 children ages 1, 6 and 10 and I know it would tear their world apart if we split up but what are the alternatives? I am in floods just typing this and I cannot see a way out. He has never gone to meetings and I dont think he is the kind of person who would see it through - he always says he can do it on his own. I am now at rock bottom but he carries on quite happily - what can I do? Any advice would be appreciated
My husband has been gambling for years and I have caught him out on numerous occasions. The last time was a year ago and we are in the process of settling the debts and I thought just coming through it. The trouble is the lies - I feel I can never trust him so I go through his pockets!! Anyway the other day I found a betting slip and when I questioned him he said 'no' he has not been in a betting shop for ages. Obviously I had the slip in my hands so he couldnt deny it anymore - he said it was for the guys at work and I am blowing this out of all proportion. I feel absolutely 'gutted' and physically sick. We have 3 children ages 1, 6 and 10 and I know it would tear their world apart if we split up but what are the alternatives? I am in floods just typing this and I cannot see a way out. He has never gone to meetings and I dont think he is the kind of person who would see it through - he always says he can do it on his own. I am now at rock bottom but he carries on quite happily - what can I do? Any advice would be appreciated