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Today is the day, finally!!!!!
#1
Hi all

My name is Suzanne, and I am a gambler

I have just spent the last 2 hours reading some of the stories in the forum, and it all sounds too familiar to me. I have been a gambler for the last 20 years and am now going to try and hopefully succeed with the help from all of you to STOP for good.

I am a successful salesperson and to others may seem the perfect person, but little do they know that I fight with a demon everyday. I know that I am the only person that can change this, so am going to be setting some baby steps for myself. I am going to be taking each and every day as a hurdle that I need to overcome, and Day 1 starts tomorrow as I have been gambling online today. I have also looked up the local GA meeting and will be attending that next Monday evening so that I can also have the support that I need to achieve this.

I want and need to start living, and realise that I cannot change what has happened in the past, but can change what will happen in the future.

I will keep you posted on my progress and will appreciate any words of wisdom that anyone has to offer.
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#2
Hi Suzanne
I was in your position last august, my whole life came crashing down, i couldnt get any more credit cards, i was trying to re-mortgage our house and my wife found out, i had emptied my kids accounts, i was a liar of the highest order .Mr Deceit... No one knew how bad i was except me, so i had to "come clean" i confessed all, i thought that was it for my marriage but my wife had faith in me and we are still together now, in fact stronger than ever. When i think back 6 months the turning point was being honest and admitting that i was powerless over gambling, being honest with my wife, then she took over control over all of our finances, i have very little money and i am not bothered. I am thankful for the peace of mind, i am genuinely happy. Going to GA every week has been fantastic a great source of support in the early dark days and it is amazing how you feel the burden lift off your shoulders once you make definite decisions and start to attend meetings and take advice, i will never forget the first few weeks with GA support - unbelievable, the feeling of relief was like being on drugs...............please come over on to our side and beat this evil disease, it can be done, have faith
dave
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#3
Congratulations on making the decision to do something about your gambling. You have made the best decision by taking yourself along to a GA meeting as there you will receive the understanding and support that will help you into recovery from compulsive gambling. This is something that can never be achieved alone.
Make sure you come back and tell us all how you are doing as this will also help other people get into recovery as well.
regards
Helen
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#4
Good for you Suzanne, I am just starting out on a life I hope will be free from gambling as well after years f frittering money away and lining bookmakers and online casinos pockets.....

I wish you all the very best success (& me too <!-- sBig Grin --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_biggrin.gif" alt="Big Grin" title="Very Happy" /><!-- sBig Grin --> )
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#5
Hi suzane many peolple have compulsive problems from many walks of life mine is that iam and will always be a COMPULSIVE GAMBLER so you are not the first person who in many ways has a good and strong foundation for life. I may be wrong but you sound like you have hidden your gambling well i cant tell or would want to tell you what to do i can only say through my familly,freinds and ga i have been gamble free since january 12th 2009. so if there is someone you trust confide in them also ga will not judge you for being female,succesfull, or anything the only thing we first have in common at ga is we have all found in gambling that are life has been unmangable and through that we try and get the support and strength to have a life of sanity,beauty.kindness and through that no debt and extra money for the important things in life.If i can do it any one can do it gone is the self harm phyiscal and mental to me and those closest slowly but sureley i can see life getting better and so will you no police,ambulances,anger tantrums like a child , 2 large lopans and no respect for familly that was my demons and whatever yours are they can soon be gone to. JUST FOR TODAY I WILL NOT GAMBLE Geoff. <!-- sBig Grin --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_biggrin.gif" alt="Big Grin" title="Very Happy" /><!-- sBig Grin -->
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#6
Hi Suzanne

By the sounds of it you are doing really well and i hope you are still off gambling ? Its unbelievable how we have hurt so many people through gambling yet while we were gambling we never thought about any of these people ! You are really lucky that your husband has forgiven you cos this was the second time i had confessed to my wife about the gambling and lastime she stood by me and helped me through it ! This time she kicked me out on 19th jan and said i have to do for myself this time and want to do it !! I would like to get our relationship back on track but as yet she doesnt know what she wants !! i just hope she is forgiving as your husband was cos i relly dont want to lose someone i really love !! and also this just for gambling ! is it really worth it ? The answer is No. I have to travel about 1 1/2hrs to my nearest GA meeting as there is nothing near me in south cumbria but it is well worth it and helpful so you are doing the right thing in getting along to GA.

Hope to hear from you soon and keep your chin up !!

Cheers
Darren
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