14-03-2010, 11:59 PM
I have just found out that my husband of 10 years has a massive gambling debt.
we have 3 children under the age of 9. i knew nothing of what has been going on other than i knew our money should have been going further that it was.
i only discovered this because he had to close his bank account and had to use mine for his wages, it was only then that i got the truth out of him.
he has 3 credit cards and 2 loans. we are getting help to sort these out and his wages now go into my account and i have taken his name off everything i can (my instant reaction was to make sure the bills will be paid and my kids taken care of), but i dont know what i do about us.
Its the enormaty of the lies and the lost of trust that kills me.
i believe for him it started when i was suffering v bad post natal depression with our 3rd child 3 years ago. i think we both just blocked eachother out to cope.
i really need to find a way to help and support him now, as we cant loose what we have.
i truly appreciate any help, advise or even just kind words at this point!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thank you for taking the time to listen
we have 3 children under the age of 9. i knew nothing of what has been going on other than i knew our money should have been going further that it was.
i only discovered this because he had to close his bank account and had to use mine for his wages, it was only then that i got the truth out of him.
he has 3 credit cards and 2 loans. we are getting help to sort these out and his wages now go into my account and i have taken his name off everything i can (my instant reaction was to make sure the bills will be paid and my kids taken care of), but i dont know what i do about us.
Its the enormaty of the lies and the lost of trust that kills me.
i believe for him it started when i was suffering v bad post natal depression with our 3rd child 3 years ago. i think we both just blocked eachother out to cope.
i really need to find a way to help and support him now, as we cant loose what we have.
i truly appreciate any help, advise or even just kind words at this point!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thank you for taking the time to listen