How do you know if they are an addict?

[been there]

Hello dear - my advice is to ask very basic questions that any NON addict will disclose - Do you live together? i assume you do from what you say -in which case you are sharing a home - ask to see his credit card bill, his bank statement - these are fundamental - if he will not disclose that information then he has something to hide - he will say trust me, he will say i have control, he will say dont you love me - he will do all the things he can to make you feel like the guilty and wrong partner in the relationship. He will be losing money. How much money is down to you to try and find out, FROM HIM. If in doubt, my advice is very simple. Save yourself from the emothional trauma that comes with living with an addict and the damage it can do. I will be here to help you if i can, but you must listen to me. Dont let him bring you down. He has to admit to a problem, until that happens you can do NOTHING.
Let me know how you get on