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My name is Andy and Im a compulsive gambler.Now 285 days since I had a bet and having not been to a meeting for over 2 months,I know I should be going every week.But because Im so bored with absolutely everything I cannot force myself to go because the thought doesnt excite me,nor does anything else excite me at all at the moment.I lead a very lonely life and dread waking up each day really,because of this I dont have much enthusiasm for anything,although like most people I just get up and trudge through the day,working away,for what I ask myself?What do I go to work for,just to exist?Thats all it ever is and never get any where,just more misery.When I was gambling I could never see a way out,and now Im not gambling,all I can still see is a black hole of no hope,so Im trying to reason with myself do I go and gamble or do I stay clean?
Hi Andy,

You have done a great job by not gambling for 285 days. Should be proud of yourself. DO NOT go and gamble again, as it will only make you curse yourself after you have gambled your money away. More misery, I can assure you.

I know how you feel. I have been through those phases of misery and come out on the other side, shining. Find something to do. Something that you like. Or maybe pick up a new hobby. I am sure you have read this in a million places, but trust me, it really helps. I took up photography to get my mind off gambling and now I really enjoy taking pictures of whatever I can. It keeps me busy and I haven't had the thought of gambling for a long long time.

Be strong and good luck. Feel free to message back and talk more if you want. I am all ears and I am sure all the other people here are too. Life has much more to offer than the stack of chips on the semi circullar table.

Hi Andy,
I have just read your post and i really feel for you.I have felt very similar to the way you are feeling,my gambling started after a serious car accident which wasnt my fault but has left me unable to work due to life long spinal injurys.I can walk ok but i have days where im in agony stuck at home every day watching the minutes tick on the clock.What im trying to say is that i gambled online at home to cure the boredom and depression i was suffering from but before i knew it i was a hooked gambler that wasted thousands and ended up in a lot of debt.Please dont go back to gambling as you will ruin your life completely.Do you have any family or good friends around you to support you as i think you could do with some support at the moment as i guess you are also suffering from depression to.
If you need to ever chat just send me a message.

Take Care and Please DONT GAMBLE x
Hi Andy

I am a loner. I am quite happy just being by myself. As long as I have my dog for company, as far as I am concerned I am happy. <!-- sBig Grin --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_biggrin.gif" alt="Big Grin" title="Very Happy" /><!-- sBig Grin -->

Do you lead a lonely life because you are a loner? Shy? Can't be bothered?

I don't think your a loner, so that leaves SHY or CAN'T BE BOTHERED.

If you can't be bothered, give yourself a kick up the backside! Life is there for you to enjoy. Put an effort in and you will reap the rewards.

If you are shy, there are a number of organisations you could join. Charity work will enable you to meet a lot of people.
Chess clubs, ten pin bowling etc... they all enable you to meet and interract with people. Even if you are shy, you will have the common topic of the club which you can talk about.

Best wishes
No Im not shy and not a loner by choice,Im sick to the back teeth of being alone.Ive been alone for over 20 years and Im completely bored of it and my brain is shredded.Every day I get up alone,go to work,alone,work,alone,dont see a soul,talk to a soul all day,then go home,alone,to an empty house to spend yet another evening alone.I go to new classes,and gym,alone,and in such a negative mode,dont talk to anybody as I cant then be bothered.Ive lost my mind and dont know if it will ever come back.I have quite a few hobbies,but nothing,absolutely nothing makes me smile any more.Thanks for your words.
Hi andy

Last January 2009 my gambling addiction had achieved its worst. I had had enough and attempted suicide. That was when I discovered GA.

I also needed specialised help as well though. So I saw a counsellor for about 6 months. Before attending this counselling I would have been one of the first to scoff at it. Not any more.
I spoke of things that nobody knows about me, but me. My family know everything re my gambling habits & debts etc. but there are still things which we all like to keep secret, especially from family.

This counselling also helped me become a more open person. Maybe not able to converse, but at least willing to try & engage someone in conversation. I was literally given a view of a new life.
All I had to do was have a go!

There are free online & telephone counselling services available in the UK. I sincerely hope you give thought to that suggestion.

Best wishes

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