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boyfriend is addicted
my boyfriend has been gambling since he was 14, that is 6 years ago. we have a baby on the way in 3 weeks im due. some weeks he is so good and doesnt bet, or does a football bet, others he hits rock bottom and loses everything he has. he has said he needs help but wont recieve any, he wont go to meetings, and then the next week he will just laugh it off. its tearng me apart and i dont know what more i can do! please help!

I am a Compulsive Gambler. Sorry for what you are now experiencing.

Unfortunately I have no magic wand for you.
The truth of the matter is that if HE does not WANT to stop, he WON'T !
By what I have read in your post, I gather that he is not ready/willing/wanting to stop.

You are still obviously on pretty good terms, relationship wise. May I suggest that you gather some information on the various organisations available that can help him. GA, GAMCARE etc...
Have a cup of tea and try to talk calmly WITH him. Don't berate him. I guarantee he will resent this if you do. Discuss with him the options available, and how YOU feel.

GA has a sister fellowship for the relatives/friends of the gambler. It is called GAMANON.
This would be extremely benficial for you, as these meetings are attended by people in your position. They have a lot of experience and can offer a lot of support if needed.

I would not suggest you do too much at this late stage in your pregnancy.
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Best wishes
thank you
he has now admitted he has a problem and is willing to go to a meeting!
our baby is beautiful, and hopefully he will be a distraction to gambling !
thanks for your support xx

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