25-05-2010, 02:03 PM
Hi Lorraine,
I would advise getting help for yourself just as you rightly advised me, it's hard to practice 'tough love' with those you love and you do need support.
The first time I went to counselling over my partner's gambling and cannabis problems I reaslised that even me finding the name/comtact details of a counsellor for him was 'enabling' - I was not making him stand on his own two feet and find it out himself which is something he would have done if he was serious (and indeed he did do it himeself when I told him this).
I think sometimes you need to be selfish and look after yourself - though completely appreciate how much easier that is to say than do.
Good luck
I would advise getting help for yourself just as you rightly advised me, it's hard to practice 'tough love' with those you love and you do need support.
The first time I went to counselling over my partner's gambling and cannabis problems I reaslised that even me finding the name/comtact details of a counsellor for him was 'enabling' - I was not making him stand on his own two feet and find it out himself which is something he would have done if he was serious (and indeed he did do it himeself when I told him this).
I think sometimes you need to be selfish and look after yourself - though completely appreciate how much easier that is to say than do.
Good luck