19-09-2010, 10:38 AM
Hello, this is my first time i have used this site, maybe i should`ve used it years ago.
Im a married father of 1, soon to be 2 and have gambled since i can remember.
Over the past 5 or so years my gambling has become a problem.
Before i would go to the local bookies and have a few quid on the horses or football, now im at a stage where i bet online and bet on whatever is on the tv, football, rugby, tennis, golf, anything!
I have lied to my wife about my online gambling, she thinks i go to the bookies and spend a little on a saturday on the football but no, i even got a new credit card and gambled upto my limit online.
This morning my wife found my credit card and asked me where it came from and what's on it.
I told her..
She cried her heart out then drove to my mums and has told her.
I have just received a phone call from my mother who has severley repremanded me, told me to cut the cards up (which i have) and has asked me how could i be so stupid.
I know i have been stupid, that's what gamblers are but what got me was i was dying to tell my mother that i have an illness and i need help; people dont see it as a illness, they just see it as one of those things.
I have now been asked to go to my mum's where all my family are going to be there and we`re going to sit round a table and sort this out.
I want to sort this out, not just for my family but for me but i would rather not involve everyone in my family.
How can i explain to them i have an illness, i dont want to make excuses for myself as i know i have a problem and need to sort it out and i need help. Help!!
Im a married father of 1, soon to be 2 and have gambled since i can remember.
Over the past 5 or so years my gambling has become a problem.
Before i would go to the local bookies and have a few quid on the horses or football, now im at a stage where i bet online and bet on whatever is on the tv, football, rugby, tennis, golf, anything!
I have lied to my wife about my online gambling, she thinks i go to the bookies and spend a little on a saturday on the football but no, i even got a new credit card and gambled upto my limit online.
This morning my wife found my credit card and asked me where it came from and what's on it.
I told her..
She cried her heart out then drove to my mums and has told her.
I have just received a phone call from my mother who has severley repremanded me, told me to cut the cards up (which i have) and has asked me how could i be so stupid.
I know i have been stupid, that's what gamblers are but what got me was i was dying to tell my mother that i have an illness and i need help; people dont see it as a illness, they just see it as one of those things.
I have now been asked to go to my mum's where all my family are going to be there and we`re going to sit round a table and sort this out.
I want to sort this out, not just for my family but for me but i would rather not involve everyone in my family.
How can i explain to them i have an illness, i dont want to make excuses for myself as i know i have a problem and need to sort it out and i need help. Help!!