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Dont know what to do
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Hi
My name is Marko and i am a compulsive gambler.
let me start by saying i am not making any excuses for your husband.But you have to realise we are ill. people understand that a drug addict or alcaholic have a compulsion to feed ther habit well so do we.i dont know what type of man your husband is but i do know what this illness dos to a person.i too have made numerous promises.and i really do mean it when i say it.then for know apparrant reason i will gamble again.i posted a mail yesterday called the pain.it mite show you how bad the Addiction is and that your husband is not the only person to display such behavior.you see in my case when i stop gambleing i have to face the reality of my actions and That realy hurts.and when you gamble that pain goes away because you think one big win thats all i need then i can put things right.it may seem like a very screwed up Logic but thats the way a lot of gamblers think.Then we lose and the pain stars again so we will do almost any thing to camble agiain.
I would have done almost anything to gamble yesterday.But being starved of money worked its still on my mind today but not as bad.
i dont know what advice to give you but.other then to starve him of cash. there are some very good people who post on this site who can help.YOU ARE NOT ALONE.God bless you and your husband.
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Thanks everyone, was at a rock bottom last night <!-- sSad --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_sad.gif" alt="Sad" title="Sad" /><!-- sSad -->. Well, he reckons as he won some money yesterday it will be easier for him to quit as it wont be eating away at him?! I am hoping he will go to GA tomorrow and I am going to go to gamanon. I just really hope that this time he will try properly. I keep saying this is his last chance but always want to believe him when he says he means it this time. I realise it is an illness, it just makes me so sad when i read stories on here about people realising how much they hurt their loved ones and came to their senses about stopping, I just wish he would get to that point. I don't know what will happen, all I can do is pray this time he means it.

I don't want us to split up as we have been through some very hard times and always come through them. I love him with all my heart, but like you say he may never learn whilst I am 'allowing' him to continue this behaviour. Fingers' crossed, this is the last time I have to write a post like this but somehow I doubt it!

Well, maybe for once, he will put us first and do what he needs to do for us to stay together. I am so unhappy there is no point in staying with someone who just constantly lies to you and makes you miserable. I have tried to support him as much as I can and it just gets thrown back in my face. Well, this is the last time, i just hope he proves me wrong this time.
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