05-07-2011, 03:14 PM
Hi Jess
Thank you for responding and asking questions.
Your questions demonstrate such strength.
For me often triggers of anger were an indicator that pains of my past were not put to rest or healed.
Being over sensitive was just an indicator that I had got in to the habit of burying abnd suppressing my emotional pain
Reacting from anger is due to my feelings of pain fear or frsutrations.
There are two kinds of aggression suppressed agression which just bottles things up and out ward aggression expressed as rage.
Both forms of aggression have an adverse effect on the realtionship I have with myself and I have with other people.
The experts will tell you that anger is healthy.
Well anger is a reaction to my pain fear or frsutrations.
My pain needs to be healed not supppressed.
My fears need to be faced and ackowledges.
Frustrations are due to me not aceepting my limtiations and having unreasonable exprectations of others.
Today I have the choice to not react in anger.
Sadly unhealed and unresolved pains if dwelled up on turn to resentments, again I hurt myself.
If I continue to dwelled up on resentments they turn to vengeance.
I will justify vengeance by saying I want justice.
the truth is that I want other people to feel my pain even more than I feel with in myself..
The serenity prayer is not an excuse to do nothing about unhealthy people aorund us.
Once we learn to express our self in a non threatening agressive healthy way we are able to stop feeling a victim of other people unhealthy actions towards us.
It does not mean we change change other people unhealthy attitudes but we can let them know we feel they are spirtually unhealthy people who have an adverse effect on us.
It is important to understand that every action has consequences.
Healthy actions often have Healthy consequences.
Unhealthy actions often have unhealthy consequences.
For me addictions and obsessions have unhealthy consequences.
People in addictions are spirtually unhealthy people during that time.
In Unhealthy situations we need to not react in an unehalthy way but to think things out before saying or doing some thing we regret which we know to be unhealthy.
It is healthy take a break and a good breath and work out our reactions to certain people and certain thinsg thathappen in our life.
Before recovery I use to run and hide from my feelings.
Any form of obsession is a way of deviating facing our own feelings.
Every fear I have today is a consequence of painful expereinces in my life.
D I want to continue reacting from the pains of my past in an unehalthy way?
It is often not your ego or pride that gets in the way of your recovery but the fact it is often fear that slow us recovery down.
Love
Dave
If you need to talk things let me know I can call you from Canada.
Thank you for responding and asking questions.
Your questions demonstrate such strength.
For me often triggers of anger were an indicator that pains of my past were not put to rest or healed.
Being over sensitive was just an indicator that I had got in to the habit of burying abnd suppressing my emotional pain
Reacting from anger is due to my feelings of pain fear or frsutrations.
There are two kinds of aggression suppressed agression which just bottles things up and out ward aggression expressed as rage.
Both forms of aggression have an adverse effect on the realtionship I have with myself and I have with other people.
The experts will tell you that anger is healthy.
Well anger is a reaction to my pain fear or frsutrations.
My pain needs to be healed not supppressed.
My fears need to be faced and ackowledges.
Frustrations are due to me not aceepting my limtiations and having unreasonable exprectations of others.
Today I have the choice to not react in anger.
Sadly unhealed and unresolved pains if dwelled up on turn to resentments, again I hurt myself.
If I continue to dwelled up on resentments they turn to vengeance.
I will justify vengeance by saying I want justice.
the truth is that I want other people to feel my pain even more than I feel with in myself..
The serenity prayer is not an excuse to do nothing about unhealthy people aorund us.
Once we learn to express our self in a non threatening agressive healthy way we are able to stop feeling a victim of other people unhealthy actions towards us.
It does not mean we change change other people unhealthy attitudes but we can let them know we feel they are spirtually unhealthy people who have an adverse effect on us.
It is important to understand that every action has consequences.
Healthy actions often have Healthy consequences.
Unhealthy actions often have unhealthy consequences.
For me addictions and obsessions have unhealthy consequences.
People in addictions are spirtually unhealthy people during that time.
In Unhealthy situations we need to not react in an unehalthy way but to think things out before saying or doing some thing we regret which we know to be unhealthy.
It is healthy take a break and a good breath and work out our reactions to certain people and certain thinsg thathappen in our life.
Before recovery I use to run and hide from my feelings.
Any form of obsession is a way of deviating facing our own feelings.
Every fear I have today is a consequence of painful expereinces in my life.
D I want to continue reacting from the pains of my past in an unehalthy way?
It is often not your ego or pride that gets in the way of your recovery but the fact it is often fear that slow us recovery down.
Love
Dave
If you need to talk things let me know I can call you from Canada.