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#1
This is just a personal opinion. 

After being to 4 GA class's which failed. 
I had to self evaluate why it failed ... 
I personally had to find my triggers which were, night time online betting.
I addressed that by gamstop which stopped me being able to place a bet online completely . 
I would just like to address GA as a whole in this post as I feel all we do is speak about gambling when in reality we are trying to take it out our life. 
What chance do you have to forget a out it when once, twice or three times a week you speak about it.
Its just a thought and I'd like feedback on my opinion.
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#2
Find Your Trigger

Welcome and thank you for the post.

I found that talking about my compulsive gambling and how much destruction, damage and also depression it did to my life and others around me is a great reminder of why I was in the room in the first place. Being able to admit that I was powerless over my compulsive gambling and my life was also unmanageable was a huge step for myself.

I would listen carefully to other members "war stories" because more often than not there would be something in them that I could realate too and would benefit my my own recovery. People at the meeting would speak at great lengths about there resentments that they had encountered in there day, week's and life's. At first I fought this was odd, but after reading the GA litature it does say that resentments can be a culprit for realaspes, so getting theses issues of my chest in a non judgemental environment was a force for good in my recovery.

I have been out of action nearly 2 years now, and the thought of gambling has never gone away if I am honest and I genuinely believe it wont, it is always lurking around in the shadows of my mind trying to strike at my weakest moment's, but GA has taught me good solid spiritual principals and a understanding the great need to avoid the first bet at all costs.

The recovery program the fellowship suggest is my way of life, reading the 'just for today's" everyday and making a genuine effort to apply them daily has really helped me, I am feeling I am becoming the person I have always wanted to be, one day at a time.

Happy, confident and at peace with myself.

All the best with your journey.

In Unity
Martin
My name is Martin, I am a compulsive gambler, my last bet was 29.9.2017. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things that I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
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#3
Findyourtrigger,
GA isn't for everyone and meetings are all different. The reason meetings normally "fail" for someone is lack of willingness or acceptance. GA isn't just about talking about our gambling but about how we feel and how we are doing. It's not just about stopping gambling, although that is our primary purpose, but about changing ourselves and why we gambled. GA asks any new member to give us 90 days and then review your decision. You can also work a steps program which is designed to bring about a change of character by various methods, including making amends to those we have affected and hurt. By simply shutting down one path to gambling doesn't right a lifetime of wrongs.
Identifying one type of gambling that you did is great and putting blocks in place is exactly the right thing to do, but in experience unless you attend GA regularly and talk about you, your past and your now, you will find another way to gamble, be it bookies or arcades or online using a different name.

My experience is 40 plus years of gambling hell losing everything I ever held dear with GA and commitment to the program the only thing that ever worked help me get abstinence from gambling.

Try it your way and remember that GA is always here if your way doesn't work.
How do I stop gambling?

Honesty.
Open-minded.
Willingness.


Chris.
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(24-08-2019, 05:02 AM)FindYourTrigger Wrote: This is just a personal opinion. 

After being to 4 GA class's which failed. 
I had to self evaluate why it failed ... 
I personally had to find my triggers which were, night time online betting.
I addressed that by gamstop which stopped me being able to place a bet online completely . 
I would just like to address GA as a whole in this post as I feel all we do is speak about gambling when in reality we are trying to take it out our life. 
What chance do you have to forget a out it when once, twice or three times a week you speak about it.
Its just a thought and I'd like feedback on my opinion.

Hi

It took some time for me to understand what my emotional triggers were, they were pains unhealed, my fears not faced, my frustration due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, my loneliness due to my fears of emotional intimacy, my boredom due to the fact I was not very efficient in my want time.

My anger was due to my pains unhealed, my fears not faced, my frustration due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, my frustration were covered by the serenity prayer and once I reduced my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, I stopped causing pains up on myself.

I did not know how to celebrate in healthy ways.

I did not know how to be self sufficient in my needs wants and my goals.

When we do things that adversely affect other people we are going against our own conscience.

Sadly will often think they other people yet did not hurt our self.

In the recovery program we should be talking about our solutions in life, not living in the symptoms of our addictions and obsessions.

For me the recovery program is about healing and finding emotional resolve.

For me working the recovery program is self rewarding.

The ideal situation is to be emotionally detached from gambling or any other addiction or obsession.

Guilt shame regret hatred jealous discontent where a high ten our of ten, now they are in low single numbers.

Healthy recovering people the recovery program talk about solutions they do not live in the past.

Each break out gambling is a lesson if we are willing to learn from it.

It takes time for meeting to move from war stories to deep seated therapies.

I no longer want to be the rat in the wheel going faster and faster getting no where.

Being in an addiction is not fun I did not love it, it was self abuse and neglect.

The recovery program is a guide to a healthy life being productive and content with who I am, with who I am with, where I am, and where I want to be.

A point is where I went from being the talker to being the walker.

It is not what I say which is important but what I do.

Love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham
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