08-05-2011, 08:31 AM
Thanks for replies Chris and Barrie and for your honesty. It means a lot from people who really know. Yesterday I ripped a necklace from my neck and threw it at him - I told him to sell it. Funny how hurt he was, but the jewellery that has gone missing were 21st birthday gifts from my parents. I am now 43. He even dragged his 12 year old son into this row.
He tells his family that he only took some money from the account (Like he's ever paid a bill) I got in my car last night with every intention of driving and never coming back. It's that look of disgust he gives me when I challange him.
His mother was compulsive gambler too - inheritated tens of thousands and gave it all to the bingo halls and fruit machines. She obviously hasn't been told the full truth by him, and puts it in his head that we should have joint accounts.
I know she has encouraged him too! I ripped up the wedding album last night too! The vows which I took so seriously, mean nothing to him.
During a bad time, he contacted my family asking if I was having an affair. He family shun me too - obviously all the lies.
Is this common to be made out the villian? I am writing all this stuff, because I want him to undersand why I left.
His friends text him messages asking if he is ok - God knows what stories he has told them.
I will be the villain in this, and I think I have finally realised this will not change.
I have bald tyres on the front of my car (for three years). My glasses are five years out of date and I give myself home made haircuts. My friends and family comment on how I have let myself go.
Sorry, but this is really turning out to be a message for him now as I intend to let him read this.
It hurts to know this will not change, and it really hurts to leave this marriage. I will never trust again.
I was in a volatile relationship before, and this hurts far more. Please tell me why I feel so ashamed!
He tells his family that he only took some money from the account (Like he's ever paid a bill) I got in my car last night with every intention of driving and never coming back. It's that look of disgust he gives me when I challange him.
His mother was compulsive gambler too - inheritated tens of thousands and gave it all to the bingo halls and fruit machines. She obviously hasn't been told the full truth by him, and puts it in his head that we should have joint accounts.
I know she has encouraged him too! I ripped up the wedding album last night too! The vows which I took so seriously, mean nothing to him.
During a bad time, he contacted my family asking if I was having an affair. He family shun me too - obviously all the lies.
Is this common to be made out the villian? I am writing all this stuff, because I want him to undersand why I left.
His friends text him messages asking if he is ok - God knows what stories he has told them.
I will be the villain in this, and I think I have finally realised this will not change.
I have bald tyres on the front of my car (for three years). My glasses are five years out of date and I give myself home made haircuts. My friends and family comment on how I have let myself go.
Sorry, but this is really turning out to be a message for him now as I intend to let him read this.
It hurts to know this will not change, and it really hurts to leave this marriage. I will never trust again.
I was in a volatile relationship before, and this hurts far more. Please tell me why I feel so ashamed!