07-05-2011, 08:37 PM
Hi Nessa,
it must be so difficult for you and I cannot really relate to you as I am a compulsive gambler, and not a victim of one.
So let me start by saying that this is just my own opinion, and not advice from GA.
Your husband is showing every symptom of being a comulsive gambler. He is lying, sneaking, cheating, spending money he hasn't got, stealing, getting angry if challenged and so on. And CGs do not get better unless they hit bottom, admit they have a probelm, seriously and honestly want help, and get it. GA can give that help, but not until the other things have happened first.
It does not appear he is ready to do this, and some never are, so my advice would be to stop torturing yourself. Protect yourself both emotionaly and financialy. If you cannot do this with him, then find someone who can help and do it without him. Bailing him out, and supporting him will NOTin the long term help him. IF!!! he finally admits his illness and that he has no power over gambling, and seeks help, you will have to be sure he is really serious about it. We can be very devious people if we want something, and he may not be genuine. BE SURE and protect your life, as it is not worth wasting it over someone who takes and takes and tries to put their guilt on others. There is always hope, but that is for you to decide.
Only my opinion, but if it helps????
Take care.
My name is Chris and I am a compulsive gambler.
it must be so difficult for you and I cannot really relate to you as I am a compulsive gambler, and not a victim of one.
So let me start by saying that this is just my own opinion, and not advice from GA.
Your husband is showing every symptom of being a comulsive gambler. He is lying, sneaking, cheating, spending money he hasn't got, stealing, getting angry if challenged and so on. And CGs do not get better unless they hit bottom, admit they have a probelm, seriously and honestly want help, and get it. GA can give that help, but not until the other things have happened first.
It does not appear he is ready to do this, and some never are, so my advice would be to stop torturing yourself. Protect yourself both emotionaly and financialy. If you cannot do this with him, then find someone who can help and do it without him. Bailing him out, and supporting him will NOTin the long term help him. IF!!! he finally admits his illness and that he has no power over gambling, and seeks help, you will have to be sure he is really serious about it. We can be very devious people if we want something, and he may not be genuine. BE SURE and protect your life, as it is not worth wasting it over someone who takes and takes and tries to put their guilt on others. There is always hope, but that is for you to decide.
Only my opinion, but if it helps????
Take care.
My name is Chris and I am a compulsive gambler.