09-05-2011, 12:37 AM
Nessa,
Wow, First I would like to say you have borught something "home" to me in so much as you have been very couragious to leave this man. I am however a great believer in the vows we take at the alter and the sactity of marriage so even though you have protected yourself by leaving i would like you to understand that this may have made him think a little bit about what he has been doing to you.
However you have had someone hurt and continue hurting you for some time now and I believe the post mayu have been the "straw that broke the camels back".
The reason for my post now is to try to ask that you stay calm in all aspects of this and try to take the higher stance and viewpoint with a purpose of trying to get this man to understand the reasons you have left.
If you feel now there is no return then best wishes to you, stay strong.
If you feel you can in fact help him with encouragement in regards to abstaining or seeking GA to help with his problems then do that as a "friend" and from a distance.
You will feel there is blame apportioned but I can see you were at your wits end in terms of this.
TC
Barrie
Wow, First I would like to say you have borught something "home" to me in so much as you have been very couragious to leave this man. I am however a great believer in the vows we take at the alter and the sactity of marriage so even though you have protected yourself by leaving i would like you to understand that this may have made him think a little bit about what he has been doing to you.
However you have had someone hurt and continue hurting you for some time now and I believe the post mayu have been the "straw that broke the camels back".
The reason for my post now is to try to ask that you stay calm in all aspects of this and try to take the higher stance and viewpoint with a purpose of trying to get this man to understand the reasons you have left.
If you feel now there is no return then best wishes to you, stay strong.
If you feel you can in fact help him with encouragement in regards to abstaining or seeking GA to help with his problems then do that as a "friend" and from a distance.
You will feel there is blame apportioned but I can see you were at your wits end in terms of this.
TC
Barrie