12-05-2011, 11:27 AM
Wow, I can really empathise with both of you. between you you have described my life also. my partner too is in denial, he has been to see a counsellor this week but seems to think just because he has been there once everything is alright and we should go back to normal. What is normal, I can't even remember. I feel so sad and angry all the time. If he loves me why can't he just stop?
I too can't get him to go to a meeting, apparantly he is not like the people there as he works and has a mortgage (thanks to me I must say). He forgets that he doesn't even see any of his wages as it goes straight to the bookies as soon as he is paid.
I can't remember the last time he got me a present for my birthday without me being there as I can't even trust him with money for important things. All the bills come out of my bank as he can't leave any money in his, although now I am completly skint as he hasn't been giving me any of his wages towards the bills.
he is not interested in spending any time with me and certainly doesn't show me any affection. He is actually quite horrible to me most of the time, nearly every week he will sleep on the sofa at least once due to me 'nagging' about his gambling? I suppose I probably do a bit, I don't mean to, I am just so hurt and I know he will keep breaking my hear as he won't even go to any meetings.
call me a pesemist but without GA I don't think he will ever stop, he has been gambling too much for too long, he hardly even knows himself anymore let alone me know him.
This absoloutly breaks my heart, to the point where I can't stop crying most of the time, I hardly ever feel happy anymore, just constantly put a brave face on for our daughter. I love him so much but he loves gambling a lot more than he loves me and I firmly believe that no matter what he says.
It is always my fault, even though he gambled for 20yrs before he even met me! I always nag or go on or we argue which all makes him gamble?! He makes me feel worthless, like nothing I do is right. All I want to do is help him but he won't help himself, he needs GA why can't he see that?
I don't know what to do anymore, I keep thinking about moving out of our house until he can get himself sorted but am worried that he won't pay the mortgage and we will end up loosing the house. he refuses to move out, always thinking of others my partner!
i am starting to feel so angry towards him but I can't stop loving him, sometimes I wish I could so as it would be easier to leave him. I don't want to do that but he is constantly pushing me away, what am I stying for anymore, I am not happy and I don't think he will change??
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I too can't get him to go to a meeting, apparantly he is not like the people there as he works and has a mortgage (thanks to me I must say). He forgets that he doesn't even see any of his wages as it goes straight to the bookies as soon as he is paid.
I can't remember the last time he got me a present for my birthday without me being there as I can't even trust him with money for important things. All the bills come out of my bank as he can't leave any money in his, although now I am completly skint as he hasn't been giving me any of his wages towards the bills.
he is not interested in spending any time with me and certainly doesn't show me any affection. He is actually quite horrible to me most of the time, nearly every week he will sleep on the sofa at least once due to me 'nagging' about his gambling? I suppose I probably do a bit, I don't mean to, I am just so hurt and I know he will keep breaking my hear as he won't even go to any meetings.
call me a pesemist but without GA I don't think he will ever stop, he has been gambling too much for too long, he hardly even knows himself anymore let alone me know him.
This absoloutly breaks my heart, to the point where I can't stop crying most of the time, I hardly ever feel happy anymore, just constantly put a brave face on for our daughter. I love him so much but he loves gambling a lot more than he loves me and I firmly believe that no matter what he says.
It is always my fault, even though he gambled for 20yrs before he even met me! I always nag or go on or we argue which all makes him gamble?! He makes me feel worthless, like nothing I do is right. All I want to do is help him but he won't help himself, he needs GA why can't he see that?
I don't know what to do anymore, I keep thinking about moving out of our house until he can get himself sorted but am worried that he won't pay the mortgage and we will end up loosing the house. he refuses to move out, always thinking of others my partner!
i am starting to feel so angry towards him but I can't stop loving him, sometimes I wish I could so as it would be easier to leave him. I don't want to do that but he is constantly pushing me away, what am I stying for anymore, I am not happy and I don't think he will change??
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